- You can support children's mental health and create a healthy relationship by regularly talking with them about their thoughts, feelings and experiences.
- Establish routines for checking in with them when there are fewer distractions such as during car rides, family dinners or at bedtime.
- Share some of your thoughts and feelings to show children that all emotions are OK and discuss the coping strategies you use.
- Encourage children to share by asking open-ended questions about various topics, not just emotions or behaviors. If children don't want to talk, respect their space and try again later.
Resources for Parents and Caregivers
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Where to Start
Starting the Conversation with Kids
Keeping the Conversation Going
- Sometimes the way we respond to kids sharing something can make them stop talking. Keep conversations going by staying calm and using open, interested body language to show you are listening.
- Let children lead the conversation and use prompts like, "Tell me more about that" rather than asking a lot of questions.
- Practice stating what you heard your child say to show you understand and encourage further sharing.
- Try to assure them that their feelings are OK. If they get upset or the conversation is difficult, take a break.
Naming Emotions
- Emotion regulation is a valuable life skill that can be taught from birth and includes naming, noticing, expressing and coping with emotions.
- Children start distinguishing major emotions like anger, fear, sadness, and happiness as early as 6 months old by watching faces, tone of voice and body language.
- As children grow, they learn more specific and subtle emotions (like frustration or joy), and the differences between similar emotions (like happiness, contentment and pride).
- Teaching children emotional language helps them express their feelings with words instead of through behaviors.
Helping Kids Notice How They Are Feeling
- Many people struggle to recognize emotions as they feel them. Teaching children to notice and understand their feelings can help them manage those feelings.
- Activities like labeling emotions, discussing past situations and noticing facial expressions can help children recognize and express their emotions.
- Teaching kids to notice how emotions feels in their bodies (e.g., butterflies in the stomach when nervous) can help them understand their feelings better.
- Keeping a daily emotions journal may help children track and understand their feelings, promoting better emotional regulation over time.
Holiday Helpers
Holiday Traditions Build Connections
- Explaining meanings behind traditions can help foster self-esteem, cultural and family identity for your child.
- Talking about longtime family traditions can help your child feel connected to family members that are no longer around.
Handling Holiday Stress
- Taking time to reflect on what matters to you can help promote calmness and happiness during a potentially stressful time.
- Healthy boundaries can help maintain your priorities and keep communication honest and respectful.
- Technology and connecting with family, friends, or neighbors can offer new forms of connection.
- Self-care routines, including healthy habits such as mindfulness and physical activity, are important.
Holiday Shopping with Kids
When You're Worried
When to Worry About Your Child's Mental Health
Children act up and sometimes have challenging behaviors. How can you tell if it’s a phase or a warning sign that needs help?
- What behaviors or emotions indicate a mental health concern
- Three steps you can take to review concerns you have
- How to seek help, if needed
How to Find a Mental Health Provider
Finding a mental health provider can be really challenging. Here are tips on navigating the mental health care system.
- Finding a mental health professional for a child can be stressful
- Five suggestions of where to start looking
- Three ideas of questions to ask
4 Ways to Encourage a Child Who Is Hard on Themselves
Anxiety in Children: What Is “Normal”?
- Feelings of anxiety and normal and does not mean a child has an anxiety disorder. Feeling anxious is a natural alarm system that alerts us to danger.
- Anxiety in children can motivate and protect them, like studying for a test or avoiding dangerous activities.
- Anxiety changes as kids develop, from "stranger danger" in young children to concerns about real-world dangers in school-aged children and social belonging in tweens and teens.
- There are warning signs of anxiety and anxiety disorders, including worrying about future events, avoiding activities, trouble sleeping or needing lots of reassurance.
What is Depression?
Depression can look different in children than it does in adults. What are the warning signs? And what should you do if it seems like a kid is depressed?
- Depression may show up as irritability, distractedness, withdrawal or hopelessness in children
- Physical signs of depression in children could look like headaches, stomach aches or fatigue
- Caregivers can take action if a child shows signs of depression